To-Do: Just Be Pregnant and Try to Stay Sane

Though the flat-dead depression of the first trimester is over and I have more energy, I haven’t been writing because I feel like I am being crushed under the weight of a never-ending to-do list. I can’t quite pinpoint what is making me so slow. Is it just a) pregnancy exhaustion and brain-mush, b) this strange post-holiday time of year that is filled with gloom and sluggishness, c) the political horror show that daily stink-bombs the entire world with fart clouds of negativity, d) the urgent feeling that I have to perfect myself and my surroundings before the babies arrive, or e) all of the above?

I’ve had some items on the to-do list for months now. I’m wondering at this point if I should just rename the list “To Don’t.”

Call Toyota and schedule recall appoinment
Write episode of series (DUE TUESDAY)
Call and schedule baby classes
Plan honeymoon thingie
Get dress altered
Do laundry
Back up computer
Apply for grant  (crossed out because the deadline passed, not because I did it)
Switch blog over to fancy self-hosted interface (been working on this for weeks)
Call friend who you said you’d call back two weeks ago
Fix up baby registry (been researching the products I’ll need in all “spare” time)
Write vows (just found out my romantic fiancé wants to go above and beyond)
Meditate (every day, but still must put it on to-do list)
Go to yoga
Do taxes
(these are half done, but I’m waiting for an outstanding w2)
Organize closets and storage to make room (been on list for two months)
Write proposal for yoga/writing class
Join parents of multiples group
*Make money

What I actually do most days:

  1. Work if I can get it
    I’ve been broke as hell, and my gigs were mostly unavailable all through February, so the “make money” one is a constant that takes precedence over everything else. Thus, today I worked the farmers market and last week I babysat and ran errands all over the place, and this week I’m doing a catering gig and more babysitting. Kai is working so often, I can’t stand the thought of his extra money just going toward my half of the rent. So every day, if I can get it, I spend most the day doing some job to make a few sheckles when I’d rather be tackling the rest of this list.
  2. Meditate
    I have to, for 20-25 minutes. Or I will turn into a crunched-up, negative energy monster. I prefer to do it when I first wake up, but a lot of times it doesn’t happen until evening.
  3. Get some exercise
    Whether it’s yoga, a long walk, prenatal pilates, or barre, I try to get some blood flowing every day so my body doesn’t buckle under the weight of my belly.
  4. Clean house until it is livable
    Which means, I do the dishes a lot, sweep the floor, make the bed, and put away clothes and things that are lying around just so I can stand the place.
  5. Select ONE thing from the rest of the list to accomplish
    So yeah, I only get one thing done per day. And sometimes that thing is just making a phone call to schedule a car service, or adding a few items to my baby registry. What I really need to do is write that episode of the series so the rest of the writer’s room doesn’t kill me. But due to the exhaustion that takes precedence, that will not happen until the day before, I guarantee, and I will continue to feel bad about myself until then.

I have friends who call, concerned, because they haven’t seen or heard from me in months. But I am just trying to hold it together and keep relatively stable and sane. Since Kai is gone so often lately, I try to spend every minute with him that I can. And our time together lately consists of crashing out on the couch with popcorn and Netflix, just recovering. Being social is barely on my radar. It’s not going to help me feel calmer or more prepared.

I know my friends would love to hear that I’ll be back to my old self again, but I know I never will. Once my body is my own again, my life will belong for a time to two others. And that feels okay to me right now. I just hope I can see past this to-do list enough to enjoy the quiet and watch with interest as my body becomes unrecognizable.

 

 

Scary Pregnant Googling

Below is a compiled list of word-for-word Google searches I have done since I found out I was pregnant. Put together in this form, they’re kind of frighteningly beautiful. Maybe I’ll submit them to a literary magazine as a poem entitled, “Crazy Pregnant Lady.”

pregnant and feel useless
writing while pregnant impossible
how much caffeine while pregnant
first trimester no motivation
green tea while pregnant
guayusa safe while pregnant
raw eggs pregnancy usa
pregnancy cat litter
toxoplasmosis
first trimester miscarriage statistics
i am so stressed out about this pregnancy i am terrified
pregnant money worries
first trimester afraid of getting fat
prenatal yoga
stress hurt baby in womb
pregnancy brain changes
best cheap crib
diapers safe for environment
cute 1/4 asian babies
can i surf while pregnant
compostable diapers
wine while pregnant
marijuana while pregnant
women’s march safe while pregnant
matcha caffeine content
dull ache in lower abdomen pregnant
acupressure points to relieve queasiness
prenatal depression
tylenol autism
st. john’s wort safe while pregnant
acupuncture while pregnant
when will i start showing
too tired to exercise first trimester
where to find preggie pops santa monica
food cures for morning sickness
can’t stop complaining first trimester
jealous of partner for being not pregnant
learn to love yourself
nannying makes me not want to have kids
lazy pregnancy
how to structure days when depressed
pregnancy hypnosis
writing jobs from home
when is he going to propose
pregnancy model agencies
fisher-price vintage cassette player with microphone
california hospital delivery
best water birth los angeles
doula price los angeles
best midwives los angeles
should mom or in-laws stay with us after birth
quiet hands free breast pump
twins natural birth
do fraternal twins grow at same rate in womb as one
baby names japanese
sun baby names
water baby names
romantic getaways near LA
insomnia 12 weeks pregnant
melatonin safe while pregnant
foods that help regulate pregnancy hormones
How to get married Santa Monica
men’s platinum wedding band 4mm